Can women achieve balance of being perceived as both powerful and feminine in today's society, or are those images mutually exclusive?

in my opinion i feel that its more expected for women to be feminine and if they have that strong personality then its not that accepted. i see this everyday at my job when women come with their husbands and they boss their husbands around or they yell at them. its crazy but it happens and when it does it doesn't look nice. But i feel that single mothers do have to be both feminine and masculine because she has be both parents and its hard but yes it does happen. There are some women i know that masculine things such as fixing their car if it breaks down because they have no one else to come and do it and that's being both masculine and feminine.